Tuesday, October 21, 2014

Letters to my BFF - Part 1

It seems just like yesterday that I met you...
At first glance. Your eyes... Your smile... Your hair... Your laugh... Nothing seemed too perfect...

But I had no idea what was in store for me, since our meeting...

3 Months later you had moved in... Living with your boyfriend was no trouble at all. It was comforting, to watch you live a happy life, knowing that your future would be a happily married couple together..

It was the year 2000, I remember it clearly... The day was sunny.. a few clouds in the sky... warm.. it was quite a day as I drove your boyfriend to pick you up... in fact, I remember it also being about 2 hours to get there.. In my shoddy little car... with a sticker on the side petrol cap, that read the name of a band, I once managed... "Paper Clip" it read... resembling an image of nothing more than the name itself. A paper clip...

I remember waiting in the car for quite some time... It was not the official day we had met... This was to come about 2 / 3 months later.... I had to wait in the car that day.. Leaving you both some privacy and some time together... I spent that day just waiting...

I guess, I was waiting because it's what I find myself doing now still.
(Which we will get into later.)

--- Finally the day came..

You were moving into our little apartment... it was a 2 bedroom flatlet. at the lower level. 1st floor. I was bewildered at the beauty that would greet me... (as mentioned above) Your eyes, and smile. everything.. at first I thought it was just the physical attraction, and really thought not much of it...

After all, you were my mates woman...

As we all lived together, we decided we would move out into a bigger place together.. It was then, that I knew that we had more in common than I ever thought..

Apart from the past, having similarities in taste in music, your current lifestyle had changed, and your music style was exactly not my forte.. Sufficed to say, neither was my taste in music for you...

(Perhaps a reminder of darker times in your past? A question I never asked, and will never know)

I had worked for a pretty reputable retail company, and your boyfriend James an IT job and was well versed in web design etc...

Because of my company shifts, I had spent much of my days off with you.. (As I'm sure you will remember one such day)

You were now pregnant, and expecting your very first child. You were having morning sickness, and had a headache... it was nearing the time James was due to return home for lunch before he went back to work..

Although quite a drive on his bike, he still came to see you every lunch time and stayed for 30 minutes...

Prior to his arrival, I offered to give you a massage, relieving all the pain and discomfort out of your head, Your headache, eyes and nausea had been treated, and you were feeling better...

It was then as you and I started sharing our stories and beliefs... Mostly bordering on music, and Elves and Fairies, all the fantastical creatures we believed existed and we made that final connection..

Nothing more happened then. We never did anything, except talked. James came home and you to had lunch together, he had seen me massage your shoulders. and this had irked him, which later came to play that evening...

Well. I must say, later that evening there was hell to pay.. I was in my room, reading I think, or was it me hiding because I heard him hitting cupboards, and angrily raising his voice at you. For no idea at the time, which only later on, I found out...

It was because he caught us talking and me massaging your shoulders and relieving your pain.

It was only once he left the house that night in a rage, drove off on his bike to cool off, that I came into the room to the damages in the room.

But the biggest damage was only later revealed to me in our friendship... <3

It was then, that I knelt down on both my knees and I made a solemn promise to you, that I would always be there for you till the day I died...

Do you remember these days? any detail of it? I know this is my side of the story and maybe one day you will read these letters here and you will remember your side of the story...



Fred <3


Sunday, March 23, 2014

Friday, March 21, 2014

If You Can't Explain It Simply!

"If you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough."

Photo of the Week

Prettiest Little bird in her nest

A Little Thought on My Mind

Always remain calm, never tense up. Remember to breath and think before you speak.
What is said can never be taken back. Just practice peace and stay strong.
Hope, Trust, have Faith, and always remember... Today is a day for change.

Quote For The Day


Update: Birth and Death of “Baby” Dolphin at uShaka Sea World - by Ocean Watch SA

The news of a dolphin born on the 9th of February to mom, Khethiwe, at Durban’s uShaka Sea World first broke on the 17th of February.  On the 18th of February, the calf was reportedly “doing very well”.  uShaka went on to say via their Facebook page that “uShaka Sea World staff are monitoring our new arrival around the clock, but are confident that "Baby" will grow to be a fit and healthy dolphin.”  However, the very next day, uShaka spokesperson, Ann Kunz, broke the news that Baby died on the night of the 18th.  Less than 12 hours after the calf, according to uShaka, was confidently “fit and healthy”.
It’s not uncommon for dolphin calves to die within their first few weeks.  There are many contributing factors. Most agree that such factors are exacerbated when calves are born in captivity.  Some suggest that it is estimated that less than 20% of those born in captivity reach maturity.
Newborn calves must swim continually to stay afloat as their tails are soft and often take weeks to become rigid enough for efficient swimming.  Mothers will progressively take the calf longer and deeper underwater so as to increase the calf’s lung capacity. For calves born in captivity, cramped in a small and shallow tank, this mother–calf interaction, vital for its survival, is severely hindered.
Many may die from infection caused by a weak immune system. Antibodies from the mother need to build up and stabilise the calf’s immunity.  Calves are particularly prone to develop a wound infection as every scratch on their delicate skin is potentially lethal until their immune system develops.  It has been observed that mothers in captivity will attempt to guide the calf away from the walls of their concrete tanks to avoid such injuries.
Gabrielle Harris, head trainer at uShaka Sea World, reports in an in-house bulletin (Bulletin #22 of 1995-1996) that: “When a dolphin calf is born, its senses and swimming skills are not fully developed. It relies on its mother to find its bearings.  Scientists have even postulated that the whiskers that the young calves have for the first few years of their lives are nature’s way of helping the youngster find its mother’s slipstream.  It must be very difficult for a mammal to give birth in the ocean.  In a dolphinarium, these problems are compacted because of the fact that the animals have to negotiate walls in their pools.  Bearing this in mind, it is important to remember that the new calf’s immunity has not developed until it has suckled successfully.  Therefore, any injury incurred has the possibility of becoming septic and killing the youngster. Cases such as this have been extensively reported.” 
uShaka’s answer to this?  A “maternity pool” – which is essentially a net fitted into a pool.  Yet, despite such precautionary measures, captive-born babies are still dying far more often that their wild counterparts.  According to another uShaka Sea World bulletin (Bulletin #29 of 2002-2003), “Frodo, our fecund bottlenose dolphin, gave birth to her eighth calf.  She was cared for in the maternity pool, together with three dolphin “midwives”.  Initially, all appeared fine but after day nine it became apparent that Frodo had rejected the calf and elected to end its life.”   A post mortem confirmed “death by trauma”.
Perhaps the biggest mystery surrounding the birth of Baby is her paternity. Out of the 11 dolphins held at Durban’s Sea World, 8 were born at the facility – all being the offspring of either Gambit (male), Kelpie (male), and Frodo (female).  Gambit is grandfather and Frodo grandmother to Khethiwe’s calf.  The only male not related to Khethiwe is Kelpie; and therefore is the only male suitable for breeding with Khethiwe.  Kelpie is 30 years old and has only successfully sired one female twenty years ago.  What this means is that, as the father of Baby remains reportedly unknown, with 5 possible sires, there’s a four-out-of-five chance that Khethiwe’s calf was the product of inbreeding.  
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An undisclosed source has since confirmed that, despite contradictory statements to media, Sea World staff knew that Gambit sired Baby, meaning that Gambit was both father and grandfather to the calf.  This in violation of internationally accepted captive breeding guidelines and ethics.  WAZA (World Association of Zoos and Aquariums) stipulates to its members that the primary goal of captive breeding is retention of genetic diversity in the captive population.
uShaka Sea World's Gavin Drysdale stated during an interview with East Coast Radio on 17thFebruary that Baby’s paternity was a mystery.  When pressed during a follow-up interview with East Coast Radio on 20th February, two days after Baby’s death and following wide-spread public criticism, Gavin Drysdale said: "Our scientists and biologists are totally assured that there are no inbreeding issues here. We do manage the population well and we fully understand how the dolphin pods work [and] how their reproduction happens in the wild.” 
Despite his total assurance and understanding of a dolphin’s reproduction, he would not name the father of the baby, or state whether a DNA test had been conducted and concluded in the three days since his first interview to confirm that Baby was not the product of inbreeding.
Alarmed by uShaka’s dwindling gene pool, local NGO “POD SA” enquired from Judy Mann, head of SAAMBR, back in February of 2013, the nature of uShaka’s breeding programme. Judy Mann ignored repeated requests to provide any information of the sort.
When asked to comment on the birth and death of Baby, Norma Patrick of “POD SA” said: “We, at POD South Africa, find it disturbing that a facility operating on public funding refuses to answer basic questions regarding the animals in its care. We particularly found it disturbing that uShaka did not announce that Khethiwe was expecting, leading us to believe that they have experienced miscarriages or still births in the past. It is also alarming that they did not announce the birth of the baby dolphin until a week later.  One would assume from this action that they have had deaths of newborns.  As there is a large international interest in dolphins in captivity, it is of concern that a “scientific” centre chooses to hide evidence from the world.  A facility with nothing to hide would be open and amenable to the sharing of information.”           
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RIP Baby

Soon after uShaka Sea World went public with the news of the birth of Baby, social media were abuzz with many South Africans expressing their concerns regarding the unknown paternity of the calf.  Many went on to question the ethics of breeding in captivity for entertainment purposes.  Instead of uShaka Sea World responding to these concerns and reassuring the public, any comment considered at all challenging was immediately deleted and the author of the post blocked from further commenting on any of uShaka Sea World’s future posts.  We feel it is inherently dishonest to remove posts that are expressing a sincere concern regarding the animals in its care. In effect, it gives a distorted and corrupted view to members of the public, shareholders, and international tourists that the South African public unquestionably supports not only its often questionable operations, but also approve of keeping and breeding dolphins in captivity, even if it is through inbreeding.  It amounts to censorship and restriction of freedom of speech.

Update:
After Ocean Watch SA raised concerns regarding the circumstances surrounding the birth and death of Baby, in a letter dated 28 February addressed to PAAZAB (African Association of Zoos and Aquaria), SAAMBR Acting CEO, LK Oelllermann, stated that “Based on the gross post mortem carried out by uShaka Sea World’s resident veterinarian and the independent pathology report, we believe that the dolphin calf died of nutritional deficiency (the report cites a “negative energy balance”).”  Mr Oellerman denied inbreeding depression as a contributing factor to Baby’s death, but would not elaborate on her paternity, saying only that staff “will be embarking on a full re-evaluation of [their] current dolphin management strategy as soon as possible.”  When Ocean Watch SA further pressed for clarification on Baby’s paternity, our requests went unanswered.
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According to a news article dated 6 March, Sea World’s Gavin Drysdale said the death of Baby was attributed to an infection which was exacerbated by “nutritional deficiency and mis-mothering”.  He added that despite speculation surrounding her paternity, no genetic tests were conducted to determine Baby’s sire.

uShaka Sea World – funded by the City of Durban; its former CEO facing mounting corruption charges –  once again shrugs off any and all accountability.
Written by Mia du Plessis